Coffee and Talk

In a previous post, I shared insights into my relationship with my daughter. Now, as my son turns 15, I find myself grappling with understanding this new phase of his life. The teenage years are fraught with fluctuating hormones and increasing complexities, especially with the transition from the simpler middle school days to a more demanding high school environment. As parents, we always hope our children are doing okay, but it’s particularly challenging with my son, who is naturally more introverted. Unlike his sister, he tends not to express his emotions or needs clearly, often bottling everything up until it becomes too much.

Just as I have done with my daughter, I strive to accept my son for who he is and recognize how he perceives the world. However, this phase is proving to be slightly more difficult as teenagers often pull away from their parents, preferring the company of their friends and engaging deeply in hobbies like video games. My son is the introvert among his extroverted friends. Sometimes, he prefers to observe rather than participate, which initially led me to worry about whether he was enjoying himself. Yet, I’ve come to realize the importance of being true to oneself—if he’s content observing, then that’s perfectly acceptable.

Open conversations have become less frequent as he doesn’t talk as much as he used to, which makes me cherish the moments when he is in a talkative mood even more. I’m also learning to accept where he is right now, who he is, and his unique style of socializing with his friends.

As a woman, I sometimes think it might be harder to connect with my son. Men might find it easier to relate, having navigated similar experiences during their own youth.

Navigating the teenage years often feels like a roller coaster for me as a single mother. I am dedicated to supporting my children while ensuring they remain healthy — mentally, emotionally, and physically — and equipped with the tools to thrive as adults.

Lately, our connection has been strengthened through one-on-one basketball games in our backyard. These games are more than just physical activity; they are when we truly sync up. We challenge each other and share laughs, and it’s during these moments that I feel our bond — nurtured since his birth — is incredibly strong. Even if he seems a bit distant at times, I believe he isn’t truly far away. Our relationship is a true blessing in my life.